Don’t walk through life looking for where you don’t belong because you will always find it.
Our attraction to another person is rarely as simple as we believe it to be at the time we experience that initial fascination. What we first register about another person is only the tip of a very deep and complex iceberg.
When our childhood needs are not met by our primary caregivers, those needs don’t just go away. Those unmet needs become our primary, unconscious motivators in our attraction to another. When we feel that strong gravitational force towards another person we often confuse this feeling with love, fate, destiny, or soul mate connection. This gravity is trigged by a deep starvation within us. That pull that we feel is our inner child screaming to have our needs met, that were not met in childhood. We are a vibrational match to who we attract in our life, because we either have the same wounding imprint, or we have polar aspects of the wound within us. This meaning we either hold the same need, and through seeing it in the other your able to become conscious of it within yourself. Or we see it, feel discomfort, and in attempts to relieve the discomfort, we project that pain onto the other person, to push our own pain away. It is as if we are shown a mirror, and instead of seeing, and acknowledging the mirror, we refuse to recognize the mirror and instead throw paint on the mirror to cover the reflection. We run away from it. Neither the paint or the running away makes the mirror any less accurate in it’s reflection, nor does running away make the mirror Cease to exist. So why then do we see the mirror and make the reflection itself the problem? I believe that its because we see the potential of these unmet needs, that are not humanly possible for us to meet on our own, finally being met by another, and the fear of them not being met again, being more painful then the original trauma, so we stay in our pain and push the reflections away. But the reality is that we vibrate in this way, so if we carry pain that is incomplete and have unmet needs, then our vibrational field will magnetically drawn in people that are a frequency match. We are a match to these people, circumstances, and situations that will allow us to find resolution for the pain we’ve experienced. It does this by recreating the familiar feeling flavors or sensations with new people so that incomplete trauma cycle within us can find resolution. So our unmet needs, are able to finally be satiated by another. The only way to break the negative cycles within relationships dynamics is to have awareness of what’s attracting us to another and the desire to move through the pain for the love of oneself and one another, not specifically just for the pain to go away. If you push pain away you resist it, and we all know what we resist persists.
The more we as a collective consciousness wake up to this reality with desire to hold love instead of fear with coherence of both parties to consciously create cohesion and therefore completion of the trauma, so you no longer vibrate in that way, meaning you will no long be magnetically pulling in those frequencies that cause you to recreate these retraumatization patterns. What is not repaired, is repeated
If both parties are conscious of this pull and pattern within them and have a loving desire to both find harmonious resolution together, then a very direct authentic approach would bring rapid transformation for both parties. The way to do this is by creating a positive association with our triggers. When someone is triggered by a person, place, sensation or emotion, it’s an opportunity for us to heal that trauma that exists within us. Often we experience triggers and we lash out, run away, or demonize the mirror standing in front of us because we don’t want to acknowledge the pain that exists within us. But like I said earlier, refusing to acknowledge the mirror as ours, projecting and running away, doesn’t change the exact accuracy of that mirror, nor is it the mirrors fault that you feel pain when you look into it.
I invite you to try this exercise the next time you feel triggered, instead of pushing the pain away, the next time you feel reactive towards another, take a step back close your eyes, breathe deep, count to 10, and allow yourself to feel the pain. Continue to breathe through the pain acknowledging any memories that come up but staying present in the here and now. If you desire to continue the conversation, do so from your heart space. Often it helps me personally to do this by placing my hand on my heart to feel my heart beat and ground in my heart mind. When we speak authentically from heart center it’s with the desire to connect with the other, not be heard, or be right, or be validated in anyway. This is about desire to take the other as you and love them in a way that you desire to be loved.
At the end of our life we will only have a few questions that make up the entirety of our experience.
Did I Live?
Did I Love?
Did I Matter?
Our connections to one another, our relationships, are what we live, love and matter for!
Isn’t it about time we shift the unconscious styles of relating that create pain, fear and separation, into emotionally coherent conscious relationships, that capitalize on each others best interest, for the greatest of all good. As to no longer fight through life trying to survive, by avoiding potential pain in the future, but instead allowing for joyful relationships that bring expansion, while harmoniously co-create worlds of possibilities, or as I say, “co-creating Heaven On Earth.” Ultimately this life can be as pleasure or as painful as you desire so I ask that you make the choice and choose either one with conscience intentions. Then the shadow and the light can coexist without malicious intentions.
As a Catalyst or an Activator, I hold the mirror vibration to everyone, that is in my energy field. This isn’t a thought or intention, it’s the vibrational frequency I hold within my being.
When we have suppressed, repressed, stuck negative energy in our bio field, a catalyst can move the energy out of your body, simply by sharing space with you. This can look like meet a complete stranger and instantly start crying, or meet a stranger that pisses you off for no apparent reason, or like sharing your life story in a matter of minutes, when you normally keep your life private. This can look differently to different people but its important to understand that the catalyst isn’t intentionally doing this to you, their natural vibrational frequency is vibrating at a rate that is shaking up and moving the stuck negative energy in your bio field, out of it. The most important thing for a Spiritual Catalyst to understand and become conscious of, is how their energy is affecting the world around them. If we are in high vibes of love, joy and gratitude the world around us is released from pain in a graceful way. If they are in self loathing, or self hate, shame, guilt, fear, or powerlessness you will catalyze the world around you by destruction without saying a word or doing anything. It’s all about your vibration that’s vibrating in response to the thoughts you are holding, your feelings you are having, and the emotional sensation that creates in your bio energy field. Through having awareness of our abilities and constant alignment with source, being conscious of our vibration at all times and continuing to do our internal work while consciously using our natural abilities to aid society in the collective evolution and expansion is necessary for a spiritual catalyst.
Of course an essential part of walking the path is “standing in our truth,” having the courage to express who we really are. This in itself begins to light a beacon for others to find their own truth, inside themselves. But this is only really one small part of the role of a Spiritual Catalyst. Such beings hold very strong energies within their soul ray harmonic, which first harmonises with their environment and then begins to emit a frequency that activates change.
It is important to say that a true Spiritual Catalyst does not change the eventual outcome of a person’s journey into truth, they only accelerate it. So a true Spiritual Catalyst will not impart their own truth onto others, rather they’ll present an alternative possibility or challenge a key building block of someone’s own reality causing illusions to fragment and fracture, thereby opening space for a more evolved version of their own truth to emerge and flourish. Holding the light for those who desire the light to come out of the darkness.
I love you all.
I hope this message helps in your process. Remember to enjoy the process it’s a marathon not a sprint. If you’d like my personal assistants or for more information visit my website KendraDivinePurposeMentor.com or Youtube.com/c/KendraDivinePurpose